How does the copycat mind work?

I have dealt (& am presently dealing ) with too many of these situations and I am fed up with the " Oh, just take it as a compliment." excuse or any other similar so-called helpful answers. To a certain extent I understand, but taking it as a compliment only lasts but a couple of days. Until you are put into the situation and experience the hands on irritation, then you could give me some realistic advice. Any psychology websites where I could ask the question?/ Anything actually helpful you must share? Please and thank you...